By MARCONI CALINDAS
Among the millions of gay men who have been caught in the web of sexual cravings, the alternative venue to fulfill them is none other than the World Wide Web, aka the Internet.
However, not all look for quick hookups. Some single gay men still opt to be conservative about meeting other gay men that is to have coffee, watch a movie or have dinner. “Then let’s see where it goes,” as some of their profiles would read.
Are you one of them?
Have you recently signed up for a membership to one of those homo-friendly match-making websites and lately have had so many hits? Are you also one of those that have been corresponding with other gay men that shared and expressed the same interest?
One day you are surfing the net with your Netbook while holding a warm house coffee paired with a delicious Pecan Pie at Café Flore by Market Street in San Francisco when suddenly your subscription to Match.Com finally has finally provided you its actual worth? You noticed that the inbox icon of your messages is lit up. Yes, there is finally a message, hence, an interest in your public profile.
Then you find yourself exchanging messages to the other gay guy on the other line.
Bliss.
After the online exchanges come trades of contact numbers, personal emails, and enhanced photos among many others. Soon, you are entangled with excitement. You now regularly talk to this person that starts calling you sweetheart, Hun, love or babe.
Three weeks of online and cellular communications have passed and you believe that you have found someone—finally. Deep in your anxieties are the thoughts of what might happen when you finally get to meet him in the flesh.
The day of reckoning comes and you two set up a date where both of your hectic schedules have ultimately aligned. Since both of you love the Castro area, you set up a date at one of its finest and swanky dining restaurants. He picks Café Mystique because he wants that Mediterranean cuisine. You were not sure if you like Falafels but you are willing to give it a try.
The night comes and you take time fixing yourself an astonishing look that can beguile your online boyfriend. You are driving those butterflies in your stomach away all the way to the rendezvous while at the back of your mind you are hoping for that dazzling sparks when you finally meet him in person.
There, you saw your online boyfriend sitting fidgeting on his seat waiting for you. You enter the restaurant walk your way to the back table and look your online boyfriend in the eye. You shake his hand while looking at him straight in his hazel eyes.
Your eyes are rolling slightly up and down trying to look for the sparks around his eyes. There are none.
No sparks. No electricity. No fireworks.
Either he does not appear to be an exact replica of his glamour photo or he looks a little pale and skinny in real life. Maybe he has gained weight a bit and grown facial hair. “Shit,” you tell yourself. Now your mind turns into a giant solar powered calculator, assessing the days that you have spent believing that he is the one.
Perhaps this will not be as bad as you think when you two begin to talk and exchange intellectual discourse. Albeit that he goes to a reputable university or work for a high-tech company, you still don’t feel that compatibility nor the attraction.
This is the scenario that most of the single gay guys go through every time they look for love online. However, this happens mostly to gay men that engage on online romances; and, believe in taking one day at a time in hooking up.
Whenever you are on online hookups whether from those matchmaking websites or hookup websites and you meet someone that pricked an interest in you, please do not prolong your agony.
Meet up ASAP.
This is the lesson gay men always learn a little too late. This recommendation doesn’t mean that you have to sleep with him right away. Unless he’s drop dead gorgeous, drives a nice car and right on safe, sleeping on first dates can be considerably an option.
Meeting him up immediately also will firm up the chemistry between the two of you—if there’s a spark or electricity in between. This, furthermore, will also prevent you from wasting precious cellular call minutes for someone that you are not sure of. Imagine those late night communications that lead to black circles around your eyes and tardiness at work?
Of course in finding love and relationship it entails taking that bold risk. Without risking it will impede you to getting to the other end of the bridge. However, why don’t take the risk quickly to determine the end result or the consequences of it? Again, the risks here are risks of taking that giant steps in a relationship and not the risks of contracting sexually transmitted diseases and ailments. It still is highly recommended to sleep with people with protection, you know.
Meeting your online friend as soon as possible will provide you an ample time to move on to your next prey. So flip that Netbook up. Turn on its power. Go and locate the next target.
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